Sperm count: Brad warns blokes about neglecting your ‘mates’
After contracting genital tuberculosis in 2005, a series of unfortunate ‘groin-related’ events left Brad with the confronting news that he may no longer be able to produce viable sperm in order to father children. Brad says, as a young man, he never thought about having children until he realised it may be taken away.
Getting blokes to the doctor can be hard. When it comes to getting their health checked out, many Aussie men are of the “if I pretend it doesn’t exist, it should go away” school of thought. However, Brad says he is now confident in spreading the word that “toughing it out” isn’t really that tough at all.
“I first knew something was wrong when I noticed swelling in my testicles and they started to get bigger and bigger,” Brad says.
“I was building my house at the time. I was working with my Dad so I didn’t want to seem like a wuss by complaining I was sick, so just let it go.
“Being an Aussie man, you tend to just put up with it. I figured after a couple weeks it would just go away.”
Unfortunately, instead of going away, it got much worse. By the time Brad saw a doctor and got to see a specialist to figure out a complicated diagnosis, his sperm count was found to be zero.
From zero to hero
Brad was diagnosed with genital tuberculosis, meaning the infection was located in his testicles and therefore wreaking havoc with his ‘junk’. Brad says it was a shock to deal with, but he now has the guts to get properly tested.
“The doctors don’t yet know if there is zero sperm count because theepididymis is blocked through infection, or maybe I have just stopped producing sperm,” he says.
Brad says that because of his experience, he urges any man, with any problem south of the border, to see someone as soon as possible. He says waiting too long can cost more than just your health.
“It’s now cost me my chance of having kids.”
Who’s your Daddy?
Brad is in his late 20s and says he never considered having children until he realised he may not be able to.
“I would never have kids for the sake of it, but as a young man, it made me think about having kids in a very different way,” he says.
He also says it can be a difficult subject for men to deal with as there are many complex emotions that blokes just aren’t trained to talk about.
“It sort of challenges your masculinity,” he says.
“It can be emasculating and it does affect your self-esteem. I was worried a woman wouldn’t want to be with me if I couldn’t have kids.
“But I spoke to my girlfriend and she was so accepting and it was so comforting to hear. It’s a hard process; you have to think about whether you would adopt or what kind of options there are.
“My old man is Italian and I know he would be devastated if I couldn’t carry on the name, so it was really complex. Having kids is a great part of life and when it’s taken away, it’s difficult to deal with.”
Brad says the experience has also expanded his perception on life, and he refers to his favourite saying: “Sometimes it’s not until you’ve lost everything that you’re free to do anything.”
However, learning the hard way isn’t necessary, and Brad hopes men will learn from his experience so they don’t have to lose themselves.
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Brad has certainly wisened up after his ordeal and has advice for other blokes too.
“My advice to any men is simple: Act quickly and if you think something is wrong, don’t be scared to visit a couple of doctors,” he says.
“Don’t wait until it’s too late and something bad happens.”